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By "You Are What You Think" (facebook)
Love yourself enough to know when enough is enough....
So many people prefer to live in drama because it's comfortable. It's like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship - it's actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect. - E.D. -
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Although I have mixed feeings about this subject, I can see BOTH sides. No matter how FLAT you make a pancake - it will always have two sides. I look at it this way: When we get married, traditional vows say, "in good times and in bad, through sickness and health, poverty and wealth, etc....till DEATH do us part." Sounds pretty simple and crystal clear. So, who died? You're suppose to stay together forever no matter what, right? But every relationship is different and should not be judged by anyone but God. He knows our circumstances before we even have circumstances. Judge not, lest ye be judged. It's hard to know for sure when to 'let go'. Personally, I have had two divorces. I was the first in my immediate family to get divorced. I felt shame and embarassment. My brother and sister both have been in marriages that have endured 40+ years! My own parents were married nearly 50 years before my dad died. But, for whatever reason, I was not so fortunate in the love department. But, everything that has happened in my life served a purpose. If I had stayed married to number 1 or 2 - I would not have my precious Courtney Lindsay. So, going through the heartache no matter how heartwrenching was worth it if it resulted in her being born. On the other hand, I married the first 2 times TOO YOUNG. We were high school sweethearts - together for years, but married for only 3 months. TOO YOUNG and DUMB. We might still be together if our parents whipped our butts and sent us back to our new home instead of inviting us back to their home. Who knows? I don't know anything for sure except that I am on number 3 right now and it's not the best marriage in the world - but it's lasted almost 26 years. That's a world record for me! He has been a wonderful father and is a good man. I may tease and gripe about him and could box his ears most days, but I'm content. Sometimes he is my soft place to fall and I trust he will catch me if need be. And in today’s world, I'd say that's a good thing - it's a good thing to just be content. Courtney might have preferred we get a divorce through the years as she's heard her share of fussing and disagreements we've had. But deep down, I think she's proud to say her parents are still together - I don't really know, you'd have to ask her. And sometimes it's just easier to stay than to deal with all the hassles of leaving - that is the saddest situation I can think of but I know a lot of people in that very boat. Whether it's finances, children, property or other difficult matters, it takes a lot of energy, money, and lawyers to work these things out - so yes, sometimes it's just easier to stay put. That is - UNLESS - there is abuse involved - then it is NEVER and I mean NEVER wise to stay put. GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION PRONTO! And whether or not you want to participate in having another relationship/life partner in the future could also be a determining factor in your decision. If you are happy and secure just being in your own company and not really feeling the need to be loved in that way anymore, then leaving wouldn't be a high priority in the scheme of life. Especially if you both feel that way. But really, who doesn't want that romantic kind of love? Don't we all? Probably not, obviously not. Everybody has differing needs in that respect. But, as I said before, at this moment - I'm content just to be content - and that's my two cents.
By "You Are What You Think" (facebook)
Love yourself enough to know when enough is enough....
So many people prefer to live in drama because it's comfortable. It's like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship - it's actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect. - E.D. -
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Although I have mixed feeings about this subject, I can see BOTH sides. No matter how FLAT you make a pancake - it will always have two sides. I look at it this way: When we get married, traditional vows say, "in good times and in bad, through sickness and health, poverty and wealth, etc....till DEATH do us part." Sounds pretty simple and crystal clear. So, who died? You're suppose to stay together forever no matter what, right? But every relationship is different and should not be judged by anyone but God. He knows our circumstances before we even have circumstances. Judge not, lest ye be judged. It's hard to know for sure when to 'let go'. Personally, I have had two divorces. I was the first in my immediate family to get divorced. I felt shame and embarassment. My brother and sister both have been in marriages that have endured 40+ years! My own parents were married nearly 50 years before my dad died. But, for whatever reason, I was not so fortunate in the love department. But, everything that has happened in my life served a purpose. If I had stayed married to number 1 or 2 - I would not have my precious Courtney Lindsay. So, going through the heartache no matter how heartwrenching was worth it if it resulted in her being born. On the other hand, I married the first 2 times TOO YOUNG. We were high school sweethearts - together for years, but married for only 3 months. TOO YOUNG and DUMB. We might still be together if our parents whipped our butts and sent us back to our new home instead of inviting us back to their home. Who knows? I don't know anything for sure except that I am on number 3 right now and it's not the best marriage in the world - but it's lasted almost 26 years. That's a world record for me! He has been a wonderful father and is a good man. I may tease and gripe about him and could box his ears most days, but I'm content. Sometimes he is my soft place to fall and I trust he will catch me if need be. And in today’s world, I'd say that's a good thing - it's a good thing to just be content. Courtney might have preferred we get a divorce through the years as she's heard her share of fussing and disagreements we've had. But deep down, I think she's proud to say her parents are still together - I don't really know, you'd have to ask her. And sometimes it's just easier to stay than to deal with all the hassles of leaving - that is the saddest situation I can think of but I know a lot of people in that very boat. Whether it's finances, children, property or other difficult matters, it takes a lot of energy, money, and lawyers to work these things out - so yes, sometimes it's just easier to stay put. That is - UNLESS - there is abuse involved - then it is NEVER and I mean NEVER wise to stay put. GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION PRONTO! And whether or not you want to participate in having another relationship/life partner in the future could also be a determining factor in your decision. If you are happy and secure just being in your own company and not really feeling the need to be loved in that way anymore, then leaving wouldn't be a high priority in the scheme of life. Especially if you both feel that way. But really, who doesn't want that romantic kind of love? Don't we all? Probably not, obviously not. Everybody has differing needs in that respect. But, as I said before, at this moment - I'm content just to be content - and that's my two cents.
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